Another question from a reader.
Stress and my Gyn history
A few years ago, I was diagnosed with an abnormal pap smear. My work life is very stressful. As you know, there is a constant struggle with trying to balance home life (with toddlers) and husband and I often wonder what my sleep deprivation and stress are mutating on a cellular level. What are some of your attempts to balance work and home life?
As a busy professional woman I find achieving work life balance is always a work in progress. That being said I am always mindful of my goal. Yes I need to continue to work to contribute to the finances of the household but I also need time for my children, my husband and myself. There have been times in my career when I think all were cheated to some degree but I have always maintained the goal in mind. This is what I have learnt. Whenever possible find a work position that provides flexibility. Sometimes the amount of work hours is not always the problem but the hours during which you have to deliver the work. For example if I am able to attend an important daytime activity at the children’s school they are more comfortable if I come home a little later in the evening. At other times I will do a night shift so that I can be with them more in the day. To be honest sometimes I may spend many of those hours in the bed resting if it has been a busy night but they know that they can easily find me if they need me. I also use my resources to get help when needed. I know that for example cleaning the house is not an activity I enjoy and that I am also very inefficient at it so for me it is more beneficial to work a few more hours in my career and hire someone to clean from time to time. This allows more of my home time to be spent in more relaxing activities. I have certain times of day, which I deem family time when I try to unplug so that my attention is not divided between them and my cell phone. I choose to exercise at home and to be honest my children look forward to me exercising to music videos in their presence. My husband and I try to go out alone at least once or twice per month or catch a movie at home after the children have gone to bed. For my personal self-care in addition to attempting to eat a healthy diet and exercise I try to have a few minutes of quiet time each night, which I prefer to spend in reading, reflections and meditation specific to my faith. I cannot pretend that I can do this every night but I am always mindful of the need to make it a priority so more often than not it is done.
Thank you so much for your question and I hope this helps.